I've been invited to a wedding of someone I knew in college. She doesn't call. She doesn't write. She emails me saying she's in town. I suggest lunch. I don't hear from her again. Ahem.
I am quite astonished 4 years later to receive an email "Save the Date" for her wedding in August. It is good to hear from her, so I give her my address at her request and receive the invitation in the mail a couple of weeks later. I feel uneasy about the invitation. Others who have been in touch with her received their invitation months before I received mine. Also, I don't know the groom and the wedding is 2 hours away.
Question: Do I go to the wedding, spend the money for the gift and the hotel when I was invited last minute, furthermore am not sure whether or not I will ever see this person again?
Answer: No. I send the RSVP with the (X) next to "Be there in spirit. I also send her an email apologizing that I am unable to attend, and suggest a get-together when she moves back to the area.
Question: Will she ever contact me again?
My guess: No. I was invited because there was "extra room" or she thought I'd be good for a gift. Anyone want to place bets on this one?
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
When you date, and don't know it.
I'm young, single and I work on a college campus where most people are not very young and not very single, except of course for the students. So, when a nice colleague from another department asks me out to lunch I say, "Of course!" This would be the same for male or female co-workers alike. In this case, it was a male.
He did not invite me off campus for this lunch; it was at a campus venue, with plenty of other faculty and staff eating, reading, having lunch meetings, etc. It was a very UN-date like environment. He did not pay for my lunch. So, we start off with the typical work-banter: office happenings, people we both know on campus, "How about them Broncos?" You know, stuff like that....
Suddenly I get the overwhelming feeling that this guy is interested more than my department job, and we are suddenly we talking about non-work things like political views. Politics shouldn't be discussed at work, they should be discussed over a beer...between friends OR MORE...but...I don't WANT to have a beer with this guy, because that makes it a date, and I don't want to date him. DAMN. I'm in a bind.
We both only have an hour for lunch (Thank God), so luckily it doesn't stay weird for long. But, then what if he asks me to go for a beer? Yikes! He doesn't ask me to go for a beer. So, now I feel bad for assuming this guy wants to date me. Do people on campus think we are dating? Uh. Oh.
This reminds me of a story my brother told me about dating without knowing it. He was new at his job and a guy in a nearby cubicle asked him if he wanted to go to a movie. My brother, thinking this guy was his pretty cool, went to a movie with him. It wasn't a romantic movie, it was a guy movie.. so, what's the problem?
He didn't think anything was weird. He'd gone out with his buddy from work... so?
The problem is my brother goes back to the office on Monday morning to find out that his other co-workers think the two guys are a couple. Turns out my brother's "work buddy" was gay. Well, how was he to know? Also, who's to say this guy was interested in my brother. Perhaps he just wanted to be nice to the new guy.
Are there always ulterior motives when a guy asks you out to a seemingly friendly lunch or movie? If so, I consider this to be a date. Furthermore, if this is the case, I've been dating 3 or 4 guy friends unknowingly for the past 5 years.
Oops.
He did not invite me off campus for this lunch; it was at a campus venue, with plenty of other faculty and staff eating, reading, having lunch meetings, etc. It was a very UN-date like environment. He did not pay for my lunch. So, we start off with the typical work-banter: office happenings, people we both know on campus, "How about them Broncos?" You know, stuff like that....
Suddenly I get the overwhelming feeling that this guy is interested more than my department job, and we are suddenly we talking about non-work things like political views. Politics shouldn't be discussed at work, they should be discussed over a beer...between friends OR MORE...but...I don't WANT to have a beer with this guy, because that makes it a date, and I don't want to date him. DAMN. I'm in a bind.
We both only have an hour for lunch (Thank God), so luckily it doesn't stay weird for long. But, then what if he asks me to go for a beer? Yikes! He doesn't ask me to go for a beer. So, now I feel bad for assuming this guy wants to date me. Do people on campus think we are dating? Uh. Oh.
This reminds me of a story my brother told me about dating without knowing it. He was new at his job and a guy in a nearby cubicle asked him if he wanted to go to a movie. My brother, thinking this guy was his pretty cool, went to a movie with him. It wasn't a romantic movie, it was a guy movie.. so, what's the problem?
He didn't think anything was weird. He'd gone out with his buddy from work... so?
The problem is my brother goes back to the office on Monday morning to find out that his other co-workers think the two guys are a couple. Turns out my brother's "work buddy" was gay. Well, how was he to know? Also, who's to say this guy was interested in my brother. Perhaps he just wanted to be nice to the new guy.
Are there always ulterior motives when a guy asks you out to a seemingly friendly lunch or movie? If so, I consider this to be a date. Furthermore, if this is the case, I've been dating 3 or 4 guy friends unknowingly for the past 5 years.
Oops.
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
What's happenin?
Just catching everyone up since my blogging has been pretty pathetic in the last few weeks.
Class: I still don't like "The Teachers" and am glad to be in Higher Education. I've read 3 articles of the 10-12 that I need to read (also find) for a Literature Review due next Thursday.
Work: Summer is a little slow around here, but I feel there are some projects being accomplished that could not be finished during the academic year.
Home: Yesterday, the monstrosity of a 52'' Mitsubishi TV that we never watched was sold and removed from the premises by a nice couple with kids. Craigslist - well done.
After the class is over I will get the household in order. Carpets need to be cleaned, household items need to be purchased, etc. BECAUSE...
Personal: My husband is moving out... don't worry... we are on good terms. We've both found other people. We are going to remain good friends and neighbors as he is literally moving 5 blocks away. New roommate is Kristina. She is currently in a love triangle and will perhaps let me blog about her. :) Excellent!
Extra-Curricular: I've booked a mini vacation for one to Costanoa in Pescadero to sit, read, hike, run, and most importantly.. be massaged for two days. Yes, I'm going by myself. Don't even think about booking one of their lovely canvas cabins while I'm there. I only want to see nature and possibly some old, quiet people.
Class: I still don't like "The Teachers" and am glad to be in Higher Education. I've read 3 articles of the 10-12 that I need to read (also find) for a Literature Review due next Thursday.
Work: Summer is a little slow around here, but I feel there are some projects being accomplished that could not be finished during the academic year.
Home: Yesterday, the monstrosity of a 52'' Mitsubishi TV that we never watched was sold and removed from the premises by a nice couple with kids. Craigslist - well done.
After the class is over I will get the household in order. Carpets need to be cleaned, household items need to be purchased, etc. BECAUSE...
Personal: My husband is moving out... don't worry... we are on good terms. We've both found other people. We are going to remain good friends and neighbors as he is literally moving 5 blocks away. New roommate is Kristina. She is currently in a love triangle and will perhaps let me blog about her. :) Excellent!
Extra-Curricular: I've booked a mini vacation for one to Costanoa in Pescadero to sit, read, hike, run, and most importantly.. be massaged for two days. Yes, I'm going by myself. Don't even think about booking one of their lovely canvas cabins while I'm there. I only want to see nature and possibly some old, quiet people.
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